Dealing with lying children presents a difficult choice. When they're young, lying seems like a developmental milestone; they are catching on that they may have an exploitable information advantage. Since they are developing a marvelous new power it feels like we should be accepting misuse from time to time. On the other hand most of us know liars who have mastered their sophisticated power and harness it freely to swindle others. We wouldn't want our children to become grown-up liars. Here are my suggestions for handling lying children.
Accept No Lying
I don't associate with liars. Not at all. No way. I've met too many in my life and they've stolen too much from me (you can read about some of the time's I've been cheated and stolen from by my trusted business partners in All-In: How I Made $800,000 in a Lifetime and $15,000 Last Week). You can't talk to a liar because they make up information. You can't make plans with a liar because they are willing to jeopardize them. You can't make a deal with a liar because they won't hold up their end. Being a liar negates any good skills or qualities a person may have. In real life, if I find out that someone has lied to me then I disengage and never trust that person with anything. For any important matters, they don't exist.
Because I love my kids I've told them my views on lying, and I tell them in the same way I described above. People who lie are not worth talking to or dealing with. That's all, just the facts. Here are some points I told my kids: