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Train Your Child To Be A Gifted Genius -- 4 "Easy" Steps!

Perfecting Parenthood:  Gifted Children Playing ChessDo you want your baby to be smart? Yes!

Would it be an advantage to “give” a five or seven year old a genius IQ? Yes!

Would you like to know how?

Here are some traits of gifted children that I was able to gather from the "authorities", which are very vague:

Perceptive, curious, possessing a large vocabulary, reaching milestones early, able to learn concepts easily, interested in learning, able to learn by themselves, become immersed in specific topics like space or dinosaurs, empathetic, generates original thoughts.

My seven year old is all of that, but does that mean he's gifted or does that mean we did our jobs as parents? At the age of seven, how can you really tell? I don't think I've seen a five or seven year old child that I couldn't make curious, that I couldn't get to come up with something resembling an original idea, that I couldn't teach how to read a few words or add some numbers or play a new game. Even if they weren't that way before, most kids that I've seen have the capacity to do those things.

Therefore, is giftedness, genius even, trainable?

By grade 2, which my seven year old firstborn just entered, any child can be cultivated to measure gifted. He is at the very top of the class, finishing his daily work within minutes because he already knows it. My wife and I were going to suggest something to the teacher but she got to us first, asking that we bring in extra projects for him to plow through during his free time.

I look at it this way: Skills are in the training. Natural athletes without training are destroyed by average athletes with a good coach. A mathematical genius will never be able to build a bridge like a run-of-the-mill trained engineer. I guarantee that, by the age of seven, I can make practically any child seem like a genius. If I can do it, then you probably can too. Here is the strategy that I’ve used on my kids:

1: Waste no time

This is the crux of the matter. Many kids waste huge time. When it’s undirected playing and exploring, this is fine, but when it’s truly wasted by consuming TV and computer and video games then there is very little upside. This time can be used by the child.

Limited TV -- We don't have a TV that the kids, or even adults watch. Our TV is off more than 90% of the time and we don't have cable When we do watch, we watch specific shows or movies that we choose as a family, usually once per week as a special event. My wife and I just recently tried hooking the antenna to the TV and were totally shocked how quickly we got sucked into watching useless stuff that just happened to be "on".  Off went the antenna.

Directed computer -- We put our kids onto the computer early, by the age of 2. There are websites with decent games to improve hand-eye coordination, patterns, etc, the most impressive would be Poisson Rouge. However, there are also other games that we found the kids get addicted to, such as the stuff offered by TV stations, which include a lot of video clips and not much game play of value. Put the kids onto a variety of sites, but monitor whether or not they get anything out of them or whether they become zombiefied. Once they do become zombies then find them a different site. You will be surprised. Some of my seven year old's favorite sites: Wikipedia, Google Translate, CIA World Factbook.

BETWEEN THE TV AND THE COMPUTER THERE IS THE POSSIBILITY THAT YOUR CHILDREN COULD WASTE YEARS OF LIFE!

2: Get them self-exploring and self-learning

Perfecting Parenthood:  Child Painting, Not Wasting TimeThe main way to do this is through reading. Our standard has been for the kids to learn the alphabet by age 3 or 4 and start reading (real reading, with comprehension) by 4 or 5. Once they show that they are capable of understanding then we force them to get reading. Push push push. Some people say to wait until the child “teaches themselves” or “proves they’re ready”, but I respectfully disagree. Don’t push hard before they’re capable, but once they are capable then the parents might have to overcome a little resistance; reading can be confusing and tedious at the leading edge of a child’s skill.

Before reading we would give them kid-oriented picture reference books that conveyed a lot of information. The biggest hit was a dinosaur encyclopedia we gave the oldest at about 4, which had hundreds of dinosaur pictures, along with pictures to show scale, and data tables. He couldn't read the words, but we read them together and he quickly learned to pick information off the page on his own. The middle child is following the same pattern, but he likes turtles and plants instead of dinosaurs and space.

By 5 the oldest was reading small books and by age 6 they were kids chapter books like Geronimo Stilton, and less than a year later it's young adult novels like The Mariah Delaney Lending Library Disaster and Wikipedia. He is asking his parents questions all the time, which means he's learning on his own.

BIG SUCCESS NEWS: Just this morning we did a geography challenge and he absolutely slayed both Mom and Dad. Again, he’s seven and we’re thirty seven. He scored around 80% or 90% on identifying countries around the world while Mom and Dad scored in the 60s or lower (Dad lower than Mom)!

Perfecting Parenthood:  Child learning and reading about math3. Get them thinking

This is math and logic. Get them counting first, then adding, subtracting, multiplying, etc in order as soon as they look like they understand what a number is. Jigsaw puzzles, mazes, some (but surprisingly for some, not most) board games and some computer programs are also excellent for developing logic. We also constantly play self-invented games. One of the best and easiest is “Detective” where we go on walks through the neighbourhood trying to deduce things. Examples: “Oh, kids live in that house” (seeing a small bike in the driveway) or “The people in that house recently left” (seeing the lights off and a dry silhouette in the driveway where a car stopped rain from hitting the driveway).

One of the best ways (most rewarding for them, and most useful for the parents) is to get them to perform the normal tasks of life. 2 or 3 years can dress themselves, feed themselves, get themselves a drink, get and put toys away, clean messes. 4 and 5 years old children can use a knife and fork, cook, fix things they break, tie shoelaces, and so on. Although they seem very simple to adults, these tasks can be high quality brain teasers for the young ‘uns, with the built in reward that they can do important big people stuff.

4. Develop confidence

Perfecting Parenthood:  Young child confident enough to cookMy kids fail a lot. They fail practically on a daily basis and it’s awesome. The reason they fail is because I challenge them just a little past their ability to perform. You would think that this might deflate them, making them lack confidence, but it really is the opposite. They do grumble and complain often, but I always take them from where they are to finishing the challenge. Where the confidence comes in is when they look at 1) What they can do that they never imagined they could do and 2) What they can do that others can’t do -- especially if they can bring down their parents.

I’m trying to forge the feeling that they can do anything. If it seems impossible, that’s because they haven’t thought about it or studied enough yet. I hate it when they tell me that they’re small. If they ever do, then it’s my mission to prove that being small has nothing to do with it. You want to accomplish something then just set about doing it. I don’t have girls, but if I did then I would be doubly sure that they never thought anything was out of reach just because of their gender.

Anyway, if you as parents do those things on a regular basis and at the most challenging level they can handle:

  • No TV
  • Reading
  • Thinking about things and
  • Reminding them that they can do whatever they want to

then you can also have “genius” or “gifted” children in the early grades. Since knowledge compounds, they will only get further advantages as the years go by, so long as they retain those habits. Part of being a parent is helping them.

PS:  My wife taught at gifted schools over the years as we travelling from city to city.  Truly gifted children are very rare.  Even most of those in gifted schools are just a little smarter and more disciplined, compounding advantages by being in a richer, better environment.  In fact, my wife's best student, and the most successful after graduating, was not the most naturally "gifted" but the most diligent.  The uber-successful only need to be "smart-enough" as Malcolm Gladwell put it in his book Outliers.  The rest comes from deliberate training and luck.

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My family just moved (earlier

Joey Espinosa's picture

My family just moved (earlier this year) to the most impoverished area in our state. My wife and I were just talking tonight about how many of the kids we work with (in an after school program) are so far behind in reading and math. Half of the 3rd graders still add on their fingers, and couldn't tell you that 8 is more than 5 without a number line.

Besides helping your kids think, CONVERSATION when they are young (like 2 or 3) is so crucial. They need their vocabularies expanded. They need to dialogue. That is what makes normal middle class kids seem like geniuses by comparison.

Here's some thoughts about educational success in this area: http://missionallendale.wordpress.com/2011/07/13/educational-success-wha...

You're right, it definitely

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You're right, it definitely can't just be the school system. An article I just read (linked to in here: http://missionallendale.wordpress.com/2011/09/23/government-can-help-but...) makes the case that schools contribute only 13% to a child's academic success. More of it has to do with factors like: access to health care, food security, pollutants, home environment, etc.

 

Rearding the younger years, I like how you phrase it "years of development potential will be lost."

 

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Alex, I must say that this has to be one of my favorite articles that you've produced. I really love how you challenged the societal view of what genius is and if it's innate, or if it can be learned. That's my type of stuff right there...I love looking into things with a different light, not to be a rebel, but because I don't believe the truth is always the only truth.

I really don’t even know want to say about the 4 points you shared: wasting no time, self exploration, thinking and developing logic. I could seriously comment on each one of these things for pages and pages.

I think a huge point you brought up (one of man huge points) is the fact the limiting a child’s time in front of a TV goes a long way and ensures they don't waste years in front of pointless activities. Beyond that, the conditioning that the media projects through TV is atrocious. The things that trigger our minds and we don't even know it…the things that desensitize us. I coach child sports and see more and more often the zombie like kids who do nothing but watch Sponge Bob and play video games. 

I let my kids watch some TV, and play some video games, but we monitor them while doing so to ensure that they're watching what we want them to watch.

Very well put together piece of work here. I loved it. 

 

I completely agree that

Educating Mama's picture

I completely agree that parents can and should do as much as possible to create an environment that is conducive to developing a love of learning.  I think all children would benefit from being encouraged in the manner you've described above -- they'll live more enriched lives and probably be more successful as a result. 

Will they be geniuses?  Probably not.  Those children who are truly geniuses generally drive the process you described all by themselves; and parents of such kids often find themselves being dragged along on a wild ride, desperately trying to feed their intense passions and intellect. 

I would be careful how you define genius -- being able to answer all the questions because you are well-read and keen is a great thing; but a genius is the one who asks the questions that no one else thought of.  It's hard to teach that.

Note as well that most parents wouldn't aspire to have geniuses for children if they knew all that that entails.  Most parents of the truly gifted (as opposed to the hopefully gifted) know that the negatives of that different neurological wiring can sometimes FAR outweigh the benefits.

Be careful what you wish for, and please don't suggest that parents have the power to turn their children into something they can't.  Parents (and their kids) are under enough pressure these days.

 

 

 

It is true that many gifted

Educating Mama's picture

It is true that many gifted people do not live up to their potential.  I definitely hid my light under a bushel in my school years and into young adulthood, having come to the conclusion that it wasn't cool to be smart, and that it was more important to fit in with the people around me.  By the time I had kids, I was comfortable with my inner mensan and wanted them to be well educated.  I did all of the things you described with mine -- reading to them daily since they were babies, avoiding toys, television etc. that didn't serve some educational purpose, surrounding them with quality books, taking them to interesting places, using advanced vocabulary even when they were just learning to speak, exposing them to different languages, music, etc. etc.  Just reading that over, it looks like I was a little over the top, but they really thrived with all of that.  At some point, though, they took over the driver's seat of their own education (we now homeschool) and I have been left in their dust. 

I guess the question is, did all of that cause their giftedness (they've both tested in the 99.9 percentile)?  I don't think it hurt, and it may have enhanced it, but my husband, who is also a mensan, grew up on a rather poor farm with few books and parents with little time for doting on him (lots of love, but he considered himself lucky to get his hands on the Readers' Digest once in awhile).  Yet, despite having little educational enrichment, he's brilliant.  So, I tend to think it's largely genetic and very much self-selecting.  You see, the parents who are providing this kind of environment are probably pretty smart themselves (I'm not surprised to hear that you are gifted, and your children probably are too). 

I gather this is a source of some controversy to scientists -- are smart people born or made?  Who knows, but it certainly can't hurt to turn off the tube and the mindless distractions and give kids an enriching educational environment. 

 

Hi Alex,

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Hi Alex,

 

I love reading your blog and am so glad that your wife told me about it.  My son is only 7 months old, so a lot of your great ideas (the peanut butter “butt wiping” practice technique, going for detective walks, etc.) will have to wait a little while, but I am nonetheless inspired by many of the posts I read on your site.  Thank you!  [By the way, if you are ever inspired to write some posts about parenting the very young crowd (i.e., babies!), I’d be interested to read some of your ideas and insights on this topic!]

 

In any case, I wanted to add a point that seemed relevant to the discussion about “training” giftedness or genius.  It relates to a subject that I am very interested in and am currently studying – individuals’ beliefs about knowledge, knowing, and learning.  In particular, I wanted to share the idea that researchers have studied these beliefs and have found that they are meaningful predictors of outcomes such as motivation, engagement, and academic achievement.  What has been found, very broadly speaking, is that the belief that intelligence is “fixed” or “innate,” and the belief that learning should happen “quickly,” are often associated with outcomes such as lower motivation, less engagement in activities, and/or lower levels of academic achievement.  Meanwhile, the belief that intelligence is “malleable,” and the belief that learning takes time (i.e., if you don’t learn something right away, it doesn’t mean that you can’t learn it later), are often associated with more productive outcomes.   (For anyone who is interested in reading more about these ideas, studies by Carol Dweck or Marlene Schommer are a good place to start!)

 

So, I guess what I want to say is that in addition to engaging kids in activities that are intended to promote their learning, exploration, motivation, etc., it seems like it would also be valuable to pay attention to the views about learning and intelligence that one’s children are developing as they explore their world, and to find some appropriate ways to discuss these views with them.

 

Also, on a somewhat related note… I love your views on challenging your children and allowing them to experience failure.  It reminds me of a quote that I once read about expertise: “An expert is a man who has made all the mistakes which can be made in a very narrow field” (Niels Bohr)

 

Thanks for making me think, Alex!

Alex, so much of what you

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Alex, so much of what you share here makes sense to me.  Your approaches to parenting seem very much in line with what I've read and learned so far as as educational psychology student.  Did you sneak into some of Bogusia's classes?  :-)   I'm certainly not an expert on the subject, but it seems to me that many of the things you do naturally with your children - scaffolding their learning by reducing the complexity of the task, providing focused and specific feedback, encouraging "look-backs" or reflection - are the hallmarks of a good learning experience.  On top of it all, you make these experiences transparent to the rest of us so that we can learn from them, too.  What a gift!  Thank you.

One thing that comes to mind when thinking about your kids and the learning that they experience at home is whether the opportunities and messages they receive at school complement or contradict those that they receive at home.  Though it will still be a while before our son is in school, this is something that I often wonder about.  How will my child make sense of different messages about learning, intelligence, etc. that are present in different contexts?  Not sure if this is something that you already do, but it might be interesting at some point to have a conversation with your kids about what they're learning about learning and whether those messages are different at home, at school, at friends' houses, etc.  Does that make sense?

I really wish we spent more time with you and your family when we lived in the same city.  Hope all is well in your new corner of the world!

Hi Alex,

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Hi Alex,

 

I saw your gravatar and title and jumped right over after commenting on JK's post. Me and my wife are craving anything about becoming better parents. We have two toddlers (2 and 4) now, and need all the information and advise we can find.

Looking around your site and discussion so far, I seem to notice that the focus is mainly on intellectual and social development. That's good and all, but I am also interested in physical development of children. Do you have any links to these?

I agree with all the four ways you suggested that we can maximised our children's chances to becoming a genius. We restrict TV time and also computer time actually. We feel that the graphics movement on the computer has adverse effects on their brain and sight development. Basically, we are speeding up their brain process too early. There is a chance of hyperactivities in the future, so we read somewhere. What's your take here?

We like the other three pointers too, especially reading time. Typically what would your recommend for the duration of reading time for children?

 

Thanks for the great post.

Hi 'Dad',

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Hi 'Dad',

Thanks for the great reply. It certainly presented another angle of what I was wondering about.

As a sports teacher, I am all for children knowing some level of basic fundamental motor skills. It disturbs me a great deal as I see youg children in school not able to do simple things like jumping, throwing, catching, hitting with rackets, and having general poor hand eye coordination if you know what I am talking about. I am talking about at lest 50% of the kids here. Guess what, these kids have no issues with their academics and computers and all. To me, it is a great imbalance in children personal development. I believe that these skills are acquired young. Every child should be able to catch and throw, and swing a golf club hitting the ball off the tee. Somewhere while growing up, children get influence about the lower importance of these skills. They get parked away and never used again. Running, cycling, swimming are all basic movements, but to me hand eye skills are crucial. Without these, the children lose touch with a very important component of personal development. Just wanted your views on how your parents and schools in your country addresses this.

If the reading you described here will turn our kids to genius, than we are ok I guess. Every night, we have about half an hour to 45mins of bed time reading. My elder girl loves it and if she can, she will make us read the whole night. But usually after 3-4 stories I fall asleep myself. hahaha. But we can see with that she loves reading and that's good. Reading is the root to curiousity and development of the mind. My little boy is still a disturbing prsence while reading. He prefers to disturb the sister. pretend to listen a bit and goose off and try other things he can get his hands on. Just his age I guess. We do not try to force him to sit and listen. I think just hearing our reading is good enough at this age.

My main intention to write to you is to find out more about how you approach parenting. I have two and they are at an age of great needs. Honestly, we are having our hands too full at the moment, so any form of advice will help. Many these are some of the areas your can share more with us and your readers;

1) My wife and I have differences in our parenting style and approach. She is the nurturing and no punishment kind, while I then to enforce more discipline. It is not surprising that they will run to mummy when they do not get their ways. My wife is an advocate in giving them lots of enrichment and all, I tend to be the easy going let them grow up naturally kind of parent. So there are differences. How do we manage that.

2) What's your take on family members constantly arguing at home with children within earshot? I know my children are sensitive and listens to us arguing subconsiously. We should be doing this less, but given the household situation at the moment, we are all a little short fuse. How does all these affect children development scientifical and how can we explain things to them?

3) I think by now, we know the importance of teaching our kids to go fro their dreams and not live the lives we parents want them to live. As children grow from toddlers to kids to younsters, how can we best impart this aspect of going for their dreams without compromising their own development and standards of living?

I probably have lots more questions. But this should be a good start. I do not expect you to answer everything at one go. I am happy just knowing that I have connected with another parents who really care about this tha he wanted to share his information and experiences online. Let's face it, who would spend 15-30min thinking and writing back to strangers unless he truly cares. Thanks for that and I look forward to greater connections with you.

BTW, I tried subscribing but realized its only through RSS at present. I need to let you know that I not a tech gig, so simple things like these, I am totally blurr as well.

I hope to send you a few more pics of my family. Is there a way through email? My site is probably not a good platform since I write about personal development in general.

Cheers and thanks for the time.

Thanks for your comments on

Ado's picture

Thanks for your comments on the chart post - I agree with them. Also I have read this post earlier, I am not sure if I commented on it or not (I thought I had!) - this is a great post. 

I like what you said about your parenting style - how if your kid thought he couldn't do something it would be up to you to prove him wrong. That's some gosh-darn good parenting. Your kids are lucky to have a hands-on dad. 

If you aren't actually

Susie's picture

If you aren't actually claiming to make your kids gifted, then why are you using that term? Misuse of that term made my life a nightmare for 4 years, as I searched for resources for my ACTUALLY gifted children. No one believed me about my gifted preschoolers, because so many people hot-house their kids and call them gifted (which you have done in this article) that the schools are flooded with phone calls about wonderful children. I had to fight to get my son the proper curriculum.
I don't know what you consider "rare," but I know lots of gifted kids. Maybe it's because I have my own, and because it's genetic, so my nieces and nephews are gifted, too.

That said, I agree that doing the things you wrote about will definitely give children an advantage in life. My problem is that I have a hard time challenging my children, keeping ahead of them so they can learn to work hard instead of only doing the things that come easily to them. The best thing I think I have done is to talk to my children as if they were adults--I don't modify my vocabulary much around them, and encourage them to ask questions. You should hear the vocabulary on my 5 year old!

Great piece. I tell everyone

Sam's picture

Great piece. I tell everyone who asks me about my child the same thing: Children will try to meet your expectations as long as you have expectations. If you don't have any expectations, the child will be all over the place. In other words, if you don't give them a goal, they usually won't accomplish much. I've always felt, through experience with my own family, that genius could be as much ( or more) a learned trait as it is a genetic one. Anyways, I cannot express just how timely this information is.

So I just read this blog, I

Courtney's picture

So I just read this blog, I have been teach my 5 year old from the day she was born. Last year in prek she tested below average and this year they have her in speech and language class, in public school. My 3 year old son, was taught the same way my daughter was and he just started talking last year. We are what some would call in between poor and middle class I guess you could say, but I still believe in learning. I read and ask questions about the book, I challenge them, we do number games, and all kinds of learning things. I have trouble getting them to pay attenthoughts follow directions now. I admit they do watch tv, but it is always educational movies that they watch, the time varies on the movie they are watching. My mother never took the time with me, I learned every thing on my own. I have very high expectations for my children. I don't know if I am boring them, doing something wrong, or what. It seems as if they have lost interest. Any advice?

So I just read this blog, I

Courtney's picture

So I just read this blog, I have been teach my 5 year old from the day she was born. Last year in prek she tested below average and this year they have her in speech and language class, in public school. My 3 year old son, was taught the same way my daughter was and he just started talking last year. We are what some would call in between poor and middle class I guess you could say, but I still believe in learning. I read and ask questions about the book, I challenge them, we do number games, and all kinds of learning things. I have trouble getting them to pay attenthoughts follow directions now. I admit they do watch tv, but it is always educational movies that they watch, the time varies on the movie they are watching. My mother never took the time with me, I learned every thing on my own. I have very high expectations for my children. I don't know if I am boring them, doing something wrong, or what. It seems as if they have lost interest. Any advice?

I have a high end "bright"

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I have a high end "bright" child and a "genius".  The most parents will believe the first child is a genius.  The child is top of her class and is above average in school testing.  The second child does barely eats or sleeps.  A true genius child is exhausting, and a constant worry.  My first child will be sucessful regardless of what I do.  The second I am trying to get through a system that will only allow him to skip one grade, but who needs to skip two to three according to school testing.  Trust me you want my first child, it is easier.  I get so angry with parents who want their children to be thought of as "genius" level.  Trust me, you are trying to get them to deal with a system  and world that is not prepared for them.  I resisted the "genius" label until the school system said they  needed additional testing.  Despite that and wonderful teachers, they don't know what to do with child number two.  They are trying and I appreciate that, but I wish we had a school for children like my second child.  My child really thought everyone would be like him/her and was devastated that they were not. :(

Great article, I am not sure

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Great article, I am not sure my daughter is what would be clinically described as gifted, but she is ahead of the curve in her class. I am a single father, and I employ all the methods you listed above. I don't care so much that she is considered gifted, but that she discovers, and develops her skills, and talents to have a enriching, and happy life. I know plenty of gifted people that wasted their gifts, and not very happy. I could go into why that is, but  the biggest factor I see was their environment. In each case they didn't come from homes that cultivated, and supported their gifts. Can you imagine what the world would be like if every child came from a home that was safe, nurturing, loving, and stimulating? It seems almost utopian. Why is it not possible, or is it?

Getting back to my daughter, one thing I see you didn't mention was music. My daughter started playing violin at 5, had to stop because of some placement legal issues with her mom, once those were resolved (took 3 months), She then wanted to play guitar like myself. She has been playing since, and now she is 7.5 year old. Studies show that children who scored the highest on standardized tests played an instrument of some kind. Music is great at aiding in your child's intellectual development. This is due because when you play an instrument you are using almost all areas of your brain. 

My approach is for full development, strive for physical, mental, creative,emotional, social and spiritual development. This leads to a well rounded child. I have been taking my daughter to the park since she was 3-4 years old to play with other children, and taught her to just go up to children, introduce herself, and ask if they would like to play with her. She has been a social butterfly since. 

I had her in gymnastics, she is strong, and agile. I may be putting her in dance classes, or resuming gymnastics. Second grade is a big change for her, because it's a new school system, and I have full placement now. So I am letting her get adjusted, and gradually integrate extracurricular activities, instead of overwhelming her. 

She goes to church every Sunday with her cousins. I am agnostic, but she was raised Baptist before I came into the picture. Long story short, I didn't know I had a daughter until she was 3.5 years old. I established my paternity when she was 4, and have had shared custody/placement up until last July. Now I have full placement. I encourage her to seek her spiritual path. 

I have seen a huge impact with using theses methods. My daughter went from having an IEP (Speech, and Reading) to no longer needing one. She didn't just catch up but she is excelling! I also spend a fair bit of time with her everyday making sure she grasps her homework, not just knowing the answers, but the thinking behind it, especially math. So a parent's involvement is critical. Even though my daughter goes to a good school system, they still use a one way fits all type of teaching to those who don't have an IEP. 

 

I also work on a work reward system. If she wants to watch some TV, or play on her Kindle, she has to earn it, by reading, cleaning, or doing something with educational merit. Her rewards are rarely mindless entertainment, and usually she watches something with merit. I also don't allow a lot of games on her Kindle. Almost all of them are educational, where a couple are leisure like Temple Run. I am a recovering game addict, so i am very aware how damaging video games can be when not limited (time, and content).

My daughter isn't just gifted, she is brilliant ( A proud father's opinion). I think all kids are gifted, its whether, or not those gifts are discovered, and cultivated. People tell me all the time there is something remarkable about my daughter. She talks like an adult. Her perceptiveness is uncanny. She excels in all her subjects, loves to read, and is highly creative. She is always doing crafts, reading or drawing. Once when she was 4, I saw her playing, and she was pretending to be taking CT scans. A few weeks before I took her to where I worked, and showed her what I did as an engineer. She was using her books as the enclosure for the doll, and using a sheet of paper with a hole cut out for the aperture to collimate the X-Ray. She only saw the CT machine once. That just blew my mind. 

I want to commend you for your article, and hopefully I have shared something a parent will have found useful.

 

 

 

 

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